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Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It and How to Stop
Self-sabotage can stop us from achieving the things we want, often without us even realising it. Learn why we self-sabotage, recognise the signs and discover how small changes can help you break old patterns.
Core Beliefs: How They Shape the Way We See Ourselves and Our Lives
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m a failure,” “Nobody really cares about me,” or “I can’t trust people”? These thoughts can feel like facts, but they may actually be core beliefs. Core beliefs are deeply held beliefs about ourselves, other people and the world around us. Understanding your core beliefs can be an important step towards improving your self-esteem, relationships and emotional wellbeing.
How to Stop People Pleasing and Learn to Say No
Have you ever found yourself saying yes when every part of you wanted to say no?
Perhaps you've agreed to help when you're already exhausted, apologised for something that wasn't your fault, or worried for hours that someone might be upset with you.
If you're nodding along, I want you to know you're not alone.
People pleasing is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling. On the surface, it can look like kindness, generosity or simply being a "nice person". But underneath, it's often driven by something much deeper: the fear of disappointing others, being rejected or feeling as though you're somehow not enough.
The good news is that people pleasing isn't who you are. It's a pattern you've learned, and patterns can change.
Understanding Black and White Thinking
Black and white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing thinking, is one of the most common forms of negative thinking patterns. It often arrives in the therapy room at some point. In reality, life is not easily pigeonholed into ‘good’ or ‘bad’, yet it is often the case that we try to place events, people and ourselves into one or the other of these slots.
Self-Esteem - what it is and how to improve it
Many people report that their feelings of self-worth are directly related to how well they are accepted by other people. Here are 5 ways that you can improve your self-esteem