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How to Stop People Pleasing and Learn to Say No
Have you ever found yourself saying yes when every part of you wanted to say no?
Perhaps you've agreed to help when you're already exhausted, apologised for something that wasn't your fault, or worried for hours that someone might be upset with you.
If you're nodding along, I want you to know you're not alone.
People pleasing is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling. On the surface, it can look like kindness, generosity or simply being a "nice person". But underneath, it's often driven by something much deeper: the fear of disappointing others, being rejected or feeling as though you're somehow not enough.
The good news is that people pleasing isn't who you are. It's a pattern you've learned, and patterns can change.
Understanding Black and White Thinking
Black and white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing thinking, is one of the most common forms of negative thinking patterns. It often arrives in the therapy room at some point. In reality, life is not easily pigeonholed into ‘good’ or ‘bad’, yet it is often the case that we try to place events, people and ourselves into one or the other of these slots.
Self-Esteem - what it is and how to improve it
Many people report that their feelings of self-worth are directly related to how well they are accepted by other people. Here are 5 ways that you can improve your self-esteem