Understanding Domestic Violence
Breaking the Silence and Finding Support
Domestic violence is a complex issue that causes pain to millions of people. This form of abuse affects people regardless of age, gender, race or social background. Domestic violence is not just about causing physical harm but often has more to with with power, control and manipulation that occurs within the relationship. There is, thankfully, an increased awareness and understanding of this issue, which means that more people are able to seek support and move towards breaking the cycle of abuse. Counselling can help by providing a space in which healing can take place.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence occurs when one person in a relationship seeks to control the other through harmful behaviours. This applies across the board, regardless of the type of relationship, a person’s gender, sexuality, social group, or race. Domestic violence takes many forms, including but not limited to:
Physical abuse: hitting, pushing, or using force to cause harm.
Emotional abuse: constant criticism, humiliation, or threats that undermine self-worth.
Financial abuse: restricting access to money, employment, or resources to maintain control.
Sexual abuse: coercion or unwanted sexual activity.
Psychological abuse: intimidation, isolation, or gaslighting
Often, abuse is not visible. Many people suffer due to the fear or shame they feel. Many may not even recognise that what they are experiencing is abuse.
The Impact of Domestic Violence
Quite aside from the immediate harmful effects of experiencing domestic abuse, survivors report long-lasting problems that extend far beyond the original event. Many report feelings of anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), low self-esteem, or difficulties in future relationships. Children exposed to domestic violence have a higher risk of entering abusive relationships later in life.
In the past, domestic violence was treated as a private issue. However, this is no longer the case. Domestic abuse is now a criminal offence and, more than that, it is a public health concern because of the long-term impact on survivors. Breaking the silence around this issue has been a key factor in the move to challenge social stigma around this form of abuse and to protect individuals and families.
Seeking Help and Support
If you are experiencing domestic violence, it is important to know that you are not alone and that help is available. Speaking to a trusted friend, family member, or professional counsellor can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Support services such as helplines, domestic violence shelters, and legal advocacy can also provide crucial assistance. Reaching out for help can feel overwhelming, but taking even a small step can lead to significant change. A list of useful contact links is provided at the end of this post.
I aim to provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental environment where survivors can begin to process their experiences and regain their sense of self. Counselling can help survivors:
Build confidence and self-esteem.
Understand patterns of abuse and how to break them.
Develop coping strategies for trauma and anxiety.
Reconnect with their identity and independence.
Explore options for building a safe future.
Recovering from domestic violence is possible, but it does take time, patience, and support. No one should feel they must go through this alone. Please reach out if you are having difficulties; we can work together towards a future filled with more healthy, supportive relationships.
Useful Links