Understanding and coping with suicidal thoughts
Experiencing thoughts of suicide is a lot more commonplace than many people realise. Many people have these thoughts at some point in their lives, yet the subject remains taboo, and these thoughts are rarely spoken about openly. Suicidal thoughts can feel overwhelming, frightening, and isolating. If you are struggling right now, it is important to remember that these suicidal thoughts are not shameful and do not define who you are. Suicidal thoughts are a sign that you are experiencing some deep emotional pain. With the right support, things can improve for you.
What are suicidal thoughts?
Suicidal thoughts, also known as suicidal ideation, refer to thinking about ending your life. Having these thoughts does not mean you will act on them, but they should always be taken very seriously. For some people, suicidal thoughts are a fleeting consideration; for others, they progress to detailed plans.
Suicidal ideation is always a response to overwhelming emotional pain. If someone is suffering from depression and anxiety or has been through a traumatic experience, they are more likely to consider suicide. Major life stressors can also bring on these thoughts, for example, financial problems or relationship issues, which bring about feelings of hopelessness. Often, people say that the idea of ending their life feels like the only way to escape the situation and/or feelings associated with it.
Recognising suicidal thoughts
Recognising the signs of suicidal thoughts—whether in yourself or others—can be life-saving. Some indicators include:
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities.
Increased use of alcohol or drugs.
Expressing feelings of being a burden.
Extreme mood swings or sudden calmness after distress.
If you notice these signs in others do reach out and encourage them to find support. If you notice them in yourself, please seek out help. You are not alone.
Recognizing the signs of suicidal thoughts—whether in yourself or others—can be life-saving. Some indicators include:
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities.
Increased use of alcohol or drugs.
Expressing feelings of being a burden.
Extreme mood swings or sudden calmness after distress
If you notice these signs in others, do reach out and encourage them to find support. If you notice them in yourself, please seek out help. You are not alone.
Samaritans (24 hours) 116 123
MindLine (24 hours) 0800 138 1692
NHS 111 (24 hours) select the mental health option
IF YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE IS IN IMMEDIATE DANGER
DIAL 999 FOR AN AMBULANCE OR GO DIRECTLY TO A&E
THIS IS AN EMERGENCY AND YOU ARE NOT WASTING ANYONE’S TIME.
Coping strategies for dealing with suicidal thoughts
If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, know that help is available and recovery is possible. Here are some steps that may help:
Talk to someone you trust – Sharing your thoughts with a friend, family member, or counsellor can ease the burden and provide perspective.
Seek professional support – A trained therapist or counsellor can help you explore the root causes of your feelings and develop healthier coping strategies.
Create a safety plan – Write down crisis contacts, supportive activities, and safe places you can go if you feel at risk.
Reduce harmful triggers – Avoid alcohol or drugs, which can intensify negative thoughts.
Practice grounding techniques – Breathing exercises, mindfulness, and journaling can help calm intense emotions.
Moving forward
Experiencing suicidal thoughts does not mean you are weak—it means you are in pain and need support.
If you feel that I can help, please do not hesitate to get in touch.